3 Simple Steps for Choosing Life Instead of Death Today

We, as followers of Christ, have the responsibility to speak life instead of death. Here are 3 steps for choosing life instead of death today!

3 Simple Steps for Choosing Life Instead of Death Today

As followers of Christ, we have the responsibility to speak life into people, not death and destruction. Throughout this post, I will share 3 simple steps for choosing life instead of death that will help you represent Christ better. Let’s begin with scripture,

“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21

Statistically, it takes seventeen positive words to counteract one negative word spoken over someone. Deconstruction is fast; reconstruction, however, is not.

It is a long process to overcome any negativity spoken over them or to them mentally. We have to recognize that and have the patience to help people through the step-by-step process of rebuilding their own confidence.

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When negative, words can be a very harsh and disheartening thing. We know how much it hurts when someone puts us down, yells at us, or belittles us. We know the pain is excruciating, so we can only imagine how wonderful it would be to hear the opposite! Do you want the words that come out of your mouth to be disheartening and destructive or uplifting? Our words can be life-giving or life-taking.

As representatives of the gospel, here are three simple steps to allow us to be life-givers rather than life-takers.

#1. Think before you speak

Think about what you are going to say and how you are going to say it. A millisecond pause in the middle of a conversation is much less awkward than losing someone’s trust over a disheartening word, whether we truly meant it or not. Take the time to gather your thoughts before opening your mouth.

#2. Put yourself in their shoes

The best way to do this is to listen to the other person involved in the conversation truly. Watch their body language, look into their eyes (not in a creepy way), and listen to the fluctuation in their voice. Do all of these characteristics of the person match up? Watch for mixed signals! For instance, is the person standing with their arms crossed, saying they are good but giving no detail about what good means and telling you they just lost a loved one? These signs do not match up. This person needs compassion and love, whether they appear to receive it or not.

Whatever a person is lacking is what we should offer to them!

Are they in a state of depression? We should offer them joy, in hopes, they feel it and inherit it themselves. If they lack faith, we can encourage them through our faith and let it be an example. With using wisdom and discernment, of course, no joyful person needs their joy stripped away.

#3. Speak to their current situation

Referring back to point two’s analogy, it would not make sense to tell that person,  “everyone has to go at some point.”  That person needs to express what they are feeling. We need to listen to them attentively.  Next, we need to speak to their current situation and state.  We are in their life to help them rebuild whatever has been destroyed. We do this simply through our loving words of encouragement and reminders of the power of God in their lives. After that, the rest is up to God. We are to speak encouragement and life to a situation where they may feel dead. Once that is done, we encourage them into the next step in their life.

Remember, speaking life and having someone believe in the life you are speaking over them can be a very long process from one way of thinking to the next.

To encourage us while encouraging others, remember not to grow weary. It is all for the glory of the Lord!

“So let’s not get tired of doing what is good. At just the right time we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t give up.” – Galatians 6:9

People will be encouraged by our perseverance to show love and speak life!

Question from Sarah Thompson, the author.

What can you do today to speak life into those around you?

Written by Sarah Thompson

Anyone can point someone in the right direction, not everyone can help guide and walk with people along the way. Just a helping hand on the journey to everlasting life.

One thought on “3 Simple Steps for Choosing Life Instead of Death Today

  1. I love #2! “Put yourself in their shoes.” This can be so difficult to do in the moment, but when we learn to do this, it changes everything. Thanks for this post today Sarah!

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