3 Ways to Avoid Responding Irrationally or Emotionally and Why It Matters

In the heat of the moment, how do you normally respond to someone? As Christians, we represent Jesus. Here's how we can improve our responses.

3 Ways to Avoid Responding Irrationally or Emotionally and Why It Matters

I do not know about you, but in the heat of a conversation, I am generally more tempted to respond rather than rationally respond emotionally. The way we react to people and situations has more power than we may realize. It has the ability to build a strong foundation and relationship, and it has the power to destroy relationships. A response can cause a relationship to grow stronger, or it can cause someone to become defensive and have their guard up every time we enter a room. In this article, we will address how to function and grow through our emotional responses in a healthy way! The final goal should always be to show people the way to Jesus, not revenge, to justify our emotional response.

“Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” – James 1:19-20

There are a lot of moments where God is prompting us to slow down and take a moment to process and discern the situation before jumping to a conclusion or response. We cannot allow our emotions to rule our day or get in the way of what God is trying to do through us.

Here are 3 simple ways to avoid an irrational, emotional response:

1. Take a deep breath before responding. We hear this all the time and laugh when someone says to “count to ten,” but it is honestly one of the smartest things you can do. It works in the heat of the moment. When you take deep breaths, you are pushing more oxygen to your brain. This gives you a clearer perspective on things, producing a better thought process at the moment. The more clarity in your situation, the better.

2. See both sides of the situation. Take a step back, emotionally and hypothetically. Removing yourself from the situation gives you a perspective from both sides of the situation. If you know you tend to respond based on emotions, it’s best to eliminate them. View both sides of the situation to ensure a rational response using wisdom and discernment.

3. Humble and submit yourself. As much as you may feel like you do not owe the other person something, whether you do or not, you do owe it to God. We must honor and love others. We are called to love God and to love others. If you genuinely strive to serve God every day, you will humble yourself and simmer your emotions. This will allow you to love others through a simple act of kindness. Whether they deserve it or not, loving someone can be the best way of representing Jesus to others.

Related Post: Out of the overflow of the heart the mouth speaks

At the end of the day, know that you should always pray about things more than you talk about them. If emotional and unjustifiable responses are things you struggle with, I encourage you to take it to God. Above all else, always take it to God!

“…Don’t just listen to God’s word. You must do what it says. Otherwise, you are only fooling yourselves.” -James 1:22

Humbly accept God’s word, allow it to plant in your heart, and will enable that harvest to save your soul, for that’s the power God’s word has in our lives!

Question from Sarah Thompson, the author.

How can you begin improving your responses today?

Written by Sarah Thompson

Anyone can point someone in the right direction, not everyone can help guide and walk with people along the way. Just a helping hand on the journey to everlasting life.

3 thoughts on “3 Ways to Avoid Responding Irrationally or Emotionally and Why It Matters

  1. Pingback: Altering the Course of the Future (This is a Game Changer)
  2. It’s hard to put our emotions aside. Especially in the heat of a situation we can get defensive and let our emotions steer our (often very aggressive) responses. I love the count to 10 rule. Doing that would give enough time to really check what you are about to say and see if it actually fixes anything. Great article!

  3. Good stuff Sarah. Step 3 is the hardest for me once I am emotionally invested in a conversation. Like you said, it’s so much easier to start with all 3 of these bullet points in mind before responding.

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.