How to Love People More and Judge Them Less

We live in a world where people often seem unlovable, and judging them is a lot easier. But here's what God has called us to do.

Judge People Less

Recently I read a book titled, Driven by Eternity by John Bevere. This book has had an amazing impact on my life and has forever changed the way I love and view the people around me and helped me to judge them less. This revelation could not have come at a more perfect time…

Shortly after reading this book, I saw a girl at my gym making fun of a friend of mine for going to church. She went on about how Jesus was his only friend, she then began to mock Jesus. This astounded me!

I grew up in the south, or what is known as the Bible Belt so I’ve never experienced someone being so blatantly disrespectful to God! At first I was fired up and wanted to say something to her, but thankfully no words came to mind.

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I began to release my anger through my workout; great workout motivation! During my workout, I began to reflect on the book I just read and I started to pray for her. I realized that she may not have anyone who can speak love and grace into her life and she needed it!

I began to pray that she would encounter God and would serve and glorify Him for the rest of her days on earth, and that she would get to spend eternity with Him.

In Luke 9:51-56 NIV we have a Biblical example of this…

51 As the time approached for him to be taken up to heaven, Jesus resolutely set out for Jerusalem. 52 And he sent messengers on ahead, who went into a Samaritan village to get things ready for him; 53 but the people there did not welcome him, because he was heading for Jerusalem. 54 When the disciples James and John saw this, they asked, “Lord, do you want us to call fire down from heaven to destroy them?” 55 But Jesus turned and rebuked them. 56 Then he and his disciples went to another village.

In verse 54 James and John are so upset by these people’s behavior toward Jesus that they want to have this village and all its people killed and consumed in a fire from Heaven.

How condemning, how harsh, how final. Eternity is a long time.

I know we’ve all had times when we see family, friends or strangers sinning. Whether it be sexual immorality, drunkenness, idolatry, drugs or any other sin issue; our first reaction is judgment. We may say things like;

“I can’t believe they…”
“How could they…”

These statements are the exact opposite of how we should respond. As followers of Christ our only response should be love.

God’s desire is for us to pray for His mercy, the Holy Spirits conviction and for that person’s repentance and salvation. God is the ultimate judge, He needs no help from us. After all it is only a blood-stained cross that separates us from the lost.

Love People More and Judge Them Less

I challenge you to change your thought process. Next time you begin to judge someone or think negatively about them, pray for them instead! Pray for their salvation and for the Holy Spirit to do a work in them. This will change your life and the way you view all of God’s people!

Question from Alecia Sanfilippo, the author.

How can you begin loving people more and judging them less?

Written by Alecia Sanfilippo

My Goal each day is to glorify God, love my husband and to positively impact everyone I come into contact with. One of my callings in life is to help people further their relationship with God and to make more disciples for the kingdom of God.

9 thoughts on “How to Love People More and Judge Them Less

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  2. Thank you for this! We all forget at times that we have a role as intercessors for our fellow man. We were once dead in our sins, blind to our Saviour too. If it wasn’t for someone having the heart to share with us the message of the cross and the redeeming power of the blood, where would we be. Love in action. We need more of this. The greatest commandments: Love God. Love your neighbour. All of the scriptures hang on these two. And yet we forget to apply it to ALL our neighbours. Thank you.

  3. I see all the posts on Facebook making fun of Mr. Biden. I have to speak up and say that I see a sad little man who is sick and being manipulated by radicals. I think he needs our prayers, not our ridicule. I don’t want him to win the upcoming election because of the destruction that will bring to our country, but I don’t want to see him manipulated or ridiculed. God’s will be done.

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  6. A beautifully put reminder to love people. Thank you for this! IN THE MOMENT it can be so difficult to do what you did. Very motivating!

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