You’re single, but are you ready to mingle?
We can’t allow ourselves to turn personal relationships into a formulaic process. How do you know if you’re really into someone or just the idea of being with someone? Here are three things to ask yourself in your singleness:
First, what drew you to them? Was it the looks on the outside or the looks on the inside?
Think about it. If you like how they look on the outside, that’s all fine and dandy. Looks can be a beautiful thing, but how their heart looks is of vital importance. Remember, outer looks can change and will change with time, unless you’re Pharrell Williams. But what your heart looks like on the inside doesn’t normally change without an act of God.
Second, do you truly love them or are you lusting after them?
Love will allow you to do some pretty incredible things. Lust will make you go running for the door when the beauty you once perceived has been altered.
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Love may look like you breaking both your arms on your honeymoon and your significant other having to do everything for you. When I say everything, I mean EV. ER. Y. THING. You can’t exactly use the commode with no arms, if you get what I’m trying to say. You say that could never happen to you, but I know a couple that actually happened to, and thank the Dear Lord they truly, truly, truly love each other for more than just their looks.
Third, are you truly in love with that person or are you in love with the idea of being with that person?
Many people have an idea of who they want or what they want in a person, but they don’t even know who they are or what they want for themselves. How can a person like that, who can hardly take care of or understand themself, try to take care of anyone else? We have to first know ourselves and love ourselves to be able to recognize what we are truly looking for in and deeply love another person. Otherwise, we may find that we are just looking for the concept of love and not true love.
Happiness in Singleness
If you can be truly happy with yourself, then there’s no reason to be sad on Valentine’s Day or any other day of the year.
It is surprisingly okay to be happy on S.A.D. (Singles Awareness Day)
“If you want the rainbow, you’ll have to make it through the storm.”
Yes, that even means going through the single storm through the holidays and special events. It’s actually okay to not have a plus one. Being confident in your singleness is a blessing when you do eventually enter into a serious relationship. Nothing that people say or do will sway you or make you waiver in your morals and convictions. It’s honestly okay to be single on Valentine’s Day, just as it’s okay to say Happy Birthday to someone else, even if it’s not your birthday. Think about it, how silly would it seem if we refused to say Happy Birthday to someone because it wasn’t our birthday? With that being said, how silly is it to be mad on Valentine’s Day because we’re not in a relationship? Welcome to reality, you may not have what someone else has because either A. You’re not ready. Or B. Your significant other is not ready.
No Need to Rush
Rushing into a relationship is like rushing popcorn in the microwave. If you pull it out too early, it hasn’t completely developed and finished it’s process. Instead, it’s wasted and just thrown away. When you rush a relationship with one or two people who aren’t fully developed and God hasn’t finished His process with them, the relationship is messed up from the beginning.
Instead of throwing something amazing away because we were too impatient to allow it to develop itself, let’s have more passion about receiving the full blessings in time, rather than rushing into your future.
Give it time so God can give it light.
Think about it, who really wants to be in a relationship with a bitter bachelor/bachelorette anyway?
Turn that frown upside down buttercup! God’s not finished with you yet!